Part of what makes pregnancy such a special time is imagining a life full of joy beyond measure with a new little person in it. We do our best to dream, plan, and prepare, but there is no way to predict how motherhood will affect us until we’re living it.
A maelstrom of heightened emotions and changing hormones coupled with “new mom” exhaustion and sense of isolation can make sanity seem like an elusive prospect. Though you might encounter unexpected challenges and changes with your growing family, you’ll also find yourself changing in amazing ways.
Motherhood can be a monumental life shift.
Like pregnancy and delivery, parenting is different for everyone, and we all adjust to our roles in different ways and times. Some days you may feel buried under the weight of responsibilities; other days your heart may overflow with love and happiness beyond measure; still other days you may be thrilled just to feel like the “World’s Okayest Mom.”
My life before having children was full of lazy weekend mornings, exiting travel adventures, time to pursue hobbies, and the luxury of quiet time in the bathroom. When we decided to have children, my husband and I knew our lives were going to change; after all we’d watched many friends make the transition to parenthood. What I didn’t expect was how much I would welcome some of these changes and how much I would enjoy pouring my heart and energy into my children.
This new chapter of your life is rich with possibility.
When I became a mom, I began to learn so much more about who I am and who I want to be. Growing and nurturing another life was powerful and transformative for me. I’ve discovered strength and courage I didn’t know I had.
Even something as seemingly simple as breastfeeding changed my outlook. While I didn’t expect nursing to be easy, I hadn’t planned on it being so hard. I had so much pain in the first few months that I just wanted to quit. Fortunately I found an incredible support group, and they gave me the confidence to keep trying.
As I found my motherhood rhythm, I started looking at the world in a new way. I’ve always been a helper and problem solver, but the life shift of being “mommy” gave me space and perspective to realize that I’m capable of creating something of value for others.
Be patient, kind, and generous—to your child AND to yourself.
You are the personification of LOVE, SAFETY, and SECURITY in your child’s life, a radiant epicenter of GOODNESS. You may be your own worst critic, but your entry into motherhood has forever changed you. No matter where you are on the parenting journey, you’re the most important person in the world to your baby. Revel in that.
Be you bravely,